Recommended Reading

Recommended Book on Addictions


As usual, I’m in the middle of about six books, and also as usual, I have a different notebook for each book, so that my notes don’t get confused. It’s not the most efficient way to stay organized, and truthfully it doesn’t really work, but I do love buying a new notebook/journal, especially when I can convince myself that I have a good reason!

One of the books I’m currently reading is called Addiction: A Banquet in the Grave, by Edward T. Welch. It takes the reality of addictions and looks at them from scripture and from a biblical perspective. I imagine this book is quite controversial in some circles, because it does not hold to the concept of addictions being an illness or a disease. In the preface, the author says, “The basic theology for addictions is that the root problem goes deeper than our genetic makeup. Addictions are ultimately a disorder of worship. Will we worship ourselves and our own desires or will we worship the true God?”. I can only speak for myself, but this is a hard word to hear, both personally and professionally. It does fly in the face of all that I learned and studied while getting my MSSW, but I’ll be the first to admit that a program can’t get more secular than social work, and I only studied it from a secular perspective, which would never in a million years give ear or credence to the idea of addictions being a disorder of worship.

The author doesn’t ignore that genetics can influence us and predispose us to enjoy a particular substance or activity, but he argues, “There is a categorical difference between being influenced by genetics and being determined by it. Possible physiological tendencies do not mean that self-control is impossible or that personal responsibility is diminished. They simply mean that some people must be more vigilant in situations where that sin can be easily provoked.”

I’m only half way through the text, but it has challenged me greatly, and I would recommend it to anyone interested in the topic of addiction. At the end of each chapter, there is a section called “Practical Theology”, where there are questions to answer that deal with facing our own addiction and helping others with theirs.

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Pregnancy joys

After having two babies and experiencing two pregnancies, I thought I had this pregnancy thing down. So, not so much. Here are a few things I’ve learned in the last few weeks:

1. Throwing up has become such a common occurrence that neither Callie nor Justus find anything strange about it. In fact, Callie makes her baby doll throw up now, which is a little distressing…. 🙂

2. Kidney stones and infections are never any fun, but throw them into your first trimester and they become particularly nightmarish….

3. Playing the pregnancy card while at the emergency room is awesome!

4. Just because I know I’m crying due to my crazy hormones doesn’t seem to help my crazy hormones.

5. You cannot avoid smells. They are everywhere. Yesterday at Walmart they were selling Turkey Legs (?!) outside and I almost lost it.

6. The only thing that sounds even remotely good to eat is Chicken Quesadillas from Qdoba. How blessed am I that there is a Qdoba in Evergreen?

7. I’m convinced I need to buy a new baby swing for baby number three. Sorry Philip.

8. Philip has taken over cleaning, cooking (okay fine, he’s always been the cook), getting up with the kids, and changing diapers. Despite going through two pregnancies with me already, he’s still as patient, caring, and thoughtful as ever.

9. My children have never watched as much Dora, Diego, LeapFrog, and Barney as they have in the past few weeks. They think it’s awesome!

10. My memory has turned to mush. Not good. Did I pull up the sides of Justus’s crib? Did I call/email the people I needed to or did I just think about doing it? What do I need from the store? Seriously, I’m going to be an idiot by the time this baby is born. (Please no sarcastic comments, my crazy emotions can’t take it! :))

On a different note, I think Justus is left-handed, Callie Grace can count to twenty, Justus can entertain himself cleaning for hours, Callie knows how to get her way by telling you “That will make me feel better” after requesting something, and I’ve discovered the joys of the Knifty Knitter. So, life is very busy and fun and nauseating, and i wouldn’t change anything if I could. Well, maybe I would take away all the smells. :).

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Easter, laziness, and interventions

I officially decorated for Easter yesterday, and while I’m happy that Easter comes late this year, thus hopefully bringing good weather that befits pretty Easter dresses, it was difficult to wait so long to decorate. Last year Philip stated that he felt certain this was the Easter Bunny’s secret residence, and this year is no different, and I haven’t even made an Easter trip to Hobby Lobby yet!

I’m trying to immerse myself in this season, focusing on the death and resurrection of Christ. It’s sad and extremely revealing to me how easily I’m distracted, and how easily I come up with excuses for why I don’t follow through with my commitment to one hour of time spent with God. I even have a book that is broken up into forty days and has journal questions and ideas for prayers in each chapter! When I’m pregnant, I like to use pregnancy as an excuse for many things (I find it to be a handy excuse, and one that I think I’ve earned, considering all that comes along with pregnancy!), but I cannot use it for not coming to God daily, hourly, with my prayers, my praise and my devotion.

My dear friend Nita reminded me yesterday what an awesome responsibility we have to our children when we consider that their souls are eternal, meaning that a part of them will exist forever. Well, crap. That is a huge responsibility, and one that I’m certain God does not take lightly, so neither should I. I don’t mean to, of course, but I do, especially when looking after their eternal souls gets in the way of something I want to do. And this is just another reason why I have to run to God every day, every minute.

So what are you reading for Lent, or to prepare yourself for Easter?

On a different note, I had to give Justus a bottle with chocolate milk in it tonight, because I drank all of the milk. With my Oreos. I also ate an entire canister of Pringles. And I barely made it through my two hour bible study this morning at church because I was so hungry I thought I was was going to lose it. This does not bode well, since I’m only a few weeks along. And also because there are three other people in this house who need to eat! Nita made me dinner on Monday, and it was this special rice and chicken, and I sort of forced her to make it again for me last night. She made an extra large portion so I could have leftovers for a few meals. It’s all gone. It might already be time for someone to stage an intervention….

I hope everyone is happy and well and ready to enjoy their weekend!

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My top ten thoughts for the day

My top ten random thoughts for today:

1. Why does Dora the Explorer yell at me all the time? At first I didn’t take this personally, but now I’m beginning to, probably because…

2. My hormones are wack. (Do people say “wack” anymore?). I’ve only known that I’m pregnant for 3 days, and my emotions are all over the place. My hormones have also caused…

3. Terrible, terrible morning sickness. Well, really it can only be called morning sickness if my hormones are aware that it’s always morning somewhere, because I’ve been sick constantly for the last two days. It’s not been pretty. It’s never pretty when you throw up so much that it starts coming out of your nose. I know, I over-shared on that one, but it’s the truth.

4. Justus likes to participate in whatever activity I’m involved in, so this morning, as I’m leaning over the bathroom sink throwing up my pancakes, Justus pulled up his step-stool next to me and tried to throw up too. Precious or creepy, you decide.

5. Lent begins today, so I’m giving up soda, which works out quite well as far as timing goes, since I should give it up during pregnancy. I’m keeping my chai tea latte though. No one can take that away from me. Except for Starbucks. But that, I’m certain, would be considered an act of terrorism.

6. Philip takes everything in stride. A wife who can’t stop throwing up and who hasn’t slept in two days, a 1 year old who is teething, an incredible amount of work to do, a phone that doesn’t stop ringing, a 2 year old who attaches herself to daddy as soon as he walks in the door – none of these things phase him or frustrate him. He even made me the wonderful pancakes this morning, which were so sadly discarded shortly after consumption.

7. It’s vitally important to have close friends who love you enough to make you laugh in between being violently ill, and who aren’t afraid to say, “Dude, you look rough”. Just keeping it real. 🙂

8. My excitement over this pregnancy keeps me from being able to concentrate on anything else! Also, I do love having such a great excuse as for why I can’t remember the date, my phone number, the year Justus was born (I gave the doctor the wrong year), etc.

9. Philip just this week purchased something called a Roku, which allows us to have internet on our TV, which means I can now watch TV shows and movies from Netflix immediately on my TV. Seriously, the timing could not have been better, since there is still nothing good on TV at 3am.

10. Let the naming begin! I’ve already chosen a girl name, which Philip agreed to surprisingly fast, but a boy name – well, we all remember the Jedidiah fiasco.

There’s my top ten for the day. I’d be interested to hear Philip’s. Perhaps I’ll challenge him to it when he gets home. His blog is www.philipmeade.com.

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I’m pregnant!!!

Philip and I are (a little hysterically) excited to announce that a new baby Meade will make an appearance in roughly nine months!

We had just started talking about having another baby, and I’m beginning to think that, contrary to popular opinion, talking about having a baby is all it takes for us to get pregnant! (just kidding of course, but feel free to use this to scare your teenagers if you’d like too!).

In a way, I’m more excited about this pregnancy than my previous ones. I think this is because I look at Callie Grace and Justus and contemplate just how much I love and adore them, how they have blessed my life and filled our home with such laughter and joy, and the idea of adding to that seems like the greatest blessing God could bestow on me.

So I say, bring on the chocolate milk cravings, the insomnia, the leg cramps, the dreaming up of names, trying to explain what’s happening to Callie and Justus, the fantastic opportunity to always get in the front of the line during fellowship meals at church, and the additional love that has already filled my heart, even though I thought it was already full to bursting. 🙂

More to come on this of course, but for now, I must go eat. Again. For like the fourth time today. 🙂